Developing the skills to attune and respond to you and your partner's feelings, needs and requests for connection is available to all who wish to learn and grow together. Past injuries to the health of your relationship can be resolved while regaining clarity in moving forward together (or apart) with compassion and commitment. The obstacles in the way of a secure relationship are the path to what you seek.
Considering Couples Therapy:
Whether you are just beginning your journey together, ready and willing to co-create a loving relationship at new levels of intimacy and interdependence, or are considering dissolving your commitment to each other, couples therapy offers an opportunity to foster the skills necessary to build the partnership or marriage that you long for, or to uncouple with compassion and integrity.
I bring together the tools of psychodynamic, cognitive, somatic, attachment and trauma informed practice in my work with couples. The models of couples therapy that I draw from most include Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Couple's Therapy, the Gottman Institute, Esther Perel, Terry Real and the Hendricks Institute.
In our work together, we can focus on a broad spectrum of challenges and skills, including:
Soothing & directing the energy and wisdom of powerful emotions in the service of your growth and the intimacy within your relationship.
Cultivating and strengthening the secure base of healthy attachment within and between you.
Enhancing executive functioning as a couple - skills which include organization, focus, time management, delayed gratification, impulse control and problem solving.
Honoring and integrating grief and loss which deepens intimacy and allows you both to reenter the fullness of your life as individuals and a couple.
Replacing addictive and compulsive distractions from your relationship distress with healthy conflict resolution skills, intimacy and interdependence.
Healing the pain of broken agreements and vows. Renegotiating agreements and rebuilding trust.
Navigating powerful life transitions together with greater ease and confidence.
Learning to address and soothe your partner's distress without abandoning your own legitimate needs.
Clarifying your unique sexuality, gender and relationship structures and harnessing this life force energy for the sacred purpose of conscious union and creativity.
Supporting one another's purposeful path with joy and co-creativity.
“Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: Can I count on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, do you rely on me?” Dr. Sue Johnson
Duration of Couples Therapy:
I offer one time consultations, short-term and long-term couples therapy. Together we can decide the duration and frequency of sessions to meet your goals. Resistance to change can arise and following through with therapy is even more important when it does.
Investing in Your Wellness:
Receiving the support of a devoted, experienced and well trained therapist requires an investment on your part. The biggest investment is your openness and willingness to grow beyond your current level of development as individuals and as a couple.
It also requires an energy exchange of a set fee for the time we share together.
Initial Consultation: $170 | 1 hour
Ongoing Therapy: $150 | 50 minutes
Longer and shorter sessions are available and are prorated by the minute.
I offer invoices for HSA and Flex Spending accounts and am an approved provider for Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan PPO plans. Contact me to see if you and your partner or spouse are eligible to use your insurance benefits for therapy.
All Couples Are Welcome:
Interracial, interfaith, multicultural and LBGTQ couples are welcome. Couples with a big age gap between them are welcome. Couples who are some shade of monogamous or some flavor of polyamorous are welcome. All couples are welcome.
How We Begin:
First, we need to check in by phone before we schedule a consultation. We will briefly assess if I am the best practitioner for you to work with, because you deserve that. If I have the skills to serve your needs, we will set up an initial consultation. For all the details about getting started, visit my page dedicated to this big step: How We Begin
Blended Family Concerns
Bonding & Attachment Styles
Building & Sharing Resources
Commitment & Fidelity Agreements
Communication & Conflict Resolution
Family of Origin Issues
Grief & Loss
Interfaith, Intercultural &
Intimacy & Vulnerability
Life Cycle Transitions
Phases of Relationship
Separation and/or Divorce
Sexuality & Erotic Intelligence
Substance & Process Addictions
The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller
Love Sense by Sue Johnson
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
The State of Affairs by Esther Perel
Rekindling Desire by Esther Perel
PolySecure by Jessica Fern
Not Just Friends by Glass & Staeheli
Lasting Love by Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks
Conscious Loving by Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks
The Relationship Ride by Julia Colwell
The Relationship Skills Workbook by Julia Colwell
The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real
The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
The Art & Science of Love by the Gottmans
Gottman Card Decks App (free)
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin
Wired for Dating by Stan Tatkin
Relationship Alive Podcast by Neil Sattin
The Shift Deck by D Chapman & G Clayton
Level of Care:
Note: my practice can not meet the high acuity needs of couples where one or both people are actively suicidal, homicidal, have untreated substance addiction, active anorexia, are living in a domestic violence situation, have needed psychiatric hospitalization in the past year or who need a legal evaluation for disability, custody, or court-ordered treatment.